Where I do believe that honesty is a virtue. That you shouldn't wantonly lie to gain advantage or cause harm, there is no way to get through the day without telling multiple "white" lies or bending the truth.

Mine start early when I give the usual good morning to all my fellow colleagues, when in truth I wished that I didn't have to ever socialize with half of them and could care less how their morning is going. I mean, be truthful, how many people can say they actually care how everyone is that they ask "how are you doing?"

I also find myself telling lies in order to motivate certain employees. When I tell them that they are "too smart" to make certain mistakes, when in reality I have doubts if they are playing with a full deck.

It goes on all day, from grinning and bearing it from those that cause frustration and thanking them for their time, to complimenting those that have no redeeming qualities.

God forbid tell her if the jeans make her ass look bigger.

Anyway, what are some of your "white" lies....

 

"I'd love yo give you a raise but then I would have to give everybody one"

"I love you"

"Yes your honor, I promise I won't have to appear in your courtroom again"

"Honest I won't cum in your mouth"

 

Here is one of my favorites when I coach the neighborhood ankle biting yard apes ... "winning isn't everything". I rarely get that one out without cracking up but the parents think it's very progressive of me to say.

When my neighbor and his wife greeted me one morning and he said "have you met my wife ********? " ... I said no lol.

 

A neighbor, who is a truly kind, thoughtful, and lovely person, made some cookies for our kids. I could tell by the look on Mr. Mischief's face that he did NOT like the cookie when he bit into it (in front of the neighbor), and I was cringing, as I was expecting him to spit it out or say something like "YUCK!" (he's not one to hold back his true feelings!).

I was SO proud when he swallowed that first bite and said "I'm gonna go get some milk. Thanks for bringing us cookies. I LOVE eating cookies!". He had managed to tell (bend?) the truth (he DOES love cookies... just not HERS!) and not hurt her feelings. (Of course, he tossed the rest of the cookie in the trash once he left the room.)

P.S. I tried a cookie later... they were AWFUL!

 

There is a huge difference between a white lie and a whopper of a lie.

My kids were taught that tact was more important that absolute truth, just as I was taught. They were also taught that a fabrication to avoid punishment was worse than the crime.

The cookie baker was treated to a tactful response by AT's kid, bravo to all involved.

Tactfully construed white lies are essential to happy marriages, the old "do these pants make my ass look fat" kind of question are best answered tactfully.

 

It seems that, that is where I have been going wrong all my life...Truth is always better.
See, Aesops neighbor believes his/her cookies are tasty, while proven that they are not, the neighbor is living within a lie.

Perhaps a little baking advice from Aesop would be not so harmful to the neighbors feelings, no matter how you look at it, a white lie in not beneficial for anyone, ALTHOUGH, it has been proven to be successful in maintaining a positive relationship.

 

It might have been a one-off...Maybe she actually does make good cookies, usually, but just missed something that day. At least she tried, and kudos to AT & hubby for the way they handled it.

 

So basically what you guys are saying is that your all full of shit. Cool! way to be!

 

As a lawyer you get to know when somebody is telling a lie.

 

..At work,always..

 

Much of my life bluntly I was simply too ignorant to lie. I didn't have the language skills to get out the truth, let alone the knowledge base to be able to lie, or even know what that meant really. There were times I was accused of such, however, ignorant of it I simply became more lost in the conversation...Eventually however I did start lying yet only in a single regard. I had been taught and actually more forced to say particular phrases to men regarding sexual things. Eventually understanding what a lie was in that regard, it still had little impact on me in that "it was the way you did things." In other words, I was not really lying, yet simply saying what you were supposed to say at such times.

Eventually, that carried with me when I became a professional. However by that point I realized why you lied such times, and learned how to really work it to serve those ends. More so, by that time I was positive that all other people ONLY lied for the most part, so I worked very hard at trying to understand why they were lying, and determining the truth through their lies...BUT...I still only lied when it came to work, no other time in that frankly it never made sense to me.

Don't get me wrong. I now understand what lying is, why people do so, and I suppose have the means to do so myself. However, I just don't, ever. Not that it is some moral imperative for me or anything, yet I still struggle enough with having conversations or even writing this that it is simply easier to state the truth, or simply say nothing. Some say that omission can be a lie, and perhaps they're right. However in that case I tend to view their own self generated conclusions as being an indicator of their thoughts and intentions...So I just keep my mouth shut, and let them do the talking.

Finally, anything that some might say is a lie on my part boils down to one of three scenarios. Either "they" simply don't believe me, and to that I just shrug not caring. I'm telling a tall tale as a joke, and I'll always state at the end of it like my husband taught me "though I could be lying" or some such to let folks know I was just fooling with them, or what I state will be so left field, ridiculous, or contrary to the point that if they can't get the sarcasm then that's their problem.

In the end, I didn't know how to lie, and once I did, I simply saw little point in it.

Hush....an alias

 

"Remember, Jerry, it's not a lie if you believe it"

 

I also use cheat codes while attempting to seem competitive while challenging my daughter on her gamebox.(She knows it though).Love is great and fun!

 

Im not a videos game person,and neither is any of the family..like i said,i try to seem competitive.The whole goal is to spend quality time with my daughter.Geez.

 

LOL..its the daughters comfortzone...she opens up,talks more to me about stuff when i participate in her "thing"..Believe me,she knows the only way i can even come close to competitiveness,is if i use the codes.The around the dinner table protocol dont work with her.

 

Why lie? We're all a bunch of assholes.

 

I rarely lie as I cannot be bothered to keep track of them for future reference!

I have only drunk or smoked two or three is quite a common one though!

G'night everybody!

Thinskin

 

Used to play monopoly with my exgfs kids. We started with these rules 1) I always win.and Im the banker. 2)anything else is fair.

At first the kids fought like usual. Then they finally got it. They teamed up against me not charging each other rent but hitting me everytime possible. The common enemy senerio. They eventually beat me and broke the bank which I regularly robbed to pay my rent. They were less likely to squabble amomg themselves after that and took those lessons to school, and looked out for each other, whether it was some bully or trouble with school work. I was still the enemy in a lot of ways. One gets in trouble another would stay n hang out with them until punishment was over. Mom wasnt too happy about it at first, but as things improved she seen the light. She soon joined the monopoly game as well. We had to temper the lessons a few times clearing up that not all life was a game. Cheating on tests or telling lies was out. Things like trying to use one parent against another was out. All in all it made a big difference in them all the way around.

 

Thank you hush

 

You're welcome....Maybe you can be redeemed after all

OT....an alias